• Andy Paulucio

5 Things To Avoid On Your Online Dating Profile Description

Updated: Mar 9

Online dating is one of the most convenient ways to meet new people. People use it for various purposes, such as making new friends, looking for something casual, or someone to settle down with. Regardless of what you are looking for, what you decide to include (or omit) in your profile description will affect how you interact with others. So to get the results you want, we will explore some of the most common mistakes you could avoid in setting up your profile.

1. Leaving it blank.

When you leave your profile description (almost) empty, it might give the impression that there is nothing about you that you feel is worth mentioning. This might cause others not to take you seriously.

Even if you decide only to include a link to your social media account or a list of emojis, you will still be missing out on the opportunity to highlight things about you that others could relate to.

Though you do not need to describe yourself, a short and straightforward introduction can go a long way.

Touching upon your interests and values is also an option.

2. Being negative.

When you are trying to filter out people that do not meet your criteria, you might feel compelled to include in your profile description words like “No,” “Not,” or “Don’t.”

However, you might be projecting a negative attitude when you channel your attention to what you dislike and disapprove of.

To avoid this, you could try shifting the focus away from what you don’t like and instead focus on what you appreciate.

Another thing you could do is figure out what emotions you wish to convey to others when they look at your profile and then use words that best carry out your intentions.

3. Omitting essential details.

Sometimes, you may feel insecure about a quality you possess or the circumstances you currently find yourself in. So you might feel the urge to conceal it from others.

It is completely fine to remain private about certain aspects of yourself.

However, potential matches would appreciate it if you were forthcoming about relevant details that could influence their decision of wanting to meet you. For instance, if you are in a non-monogamous relationship or a single parent.

If you want others to be forthcoming with you and respectful of your time, you could start by being frank with them. You may not always get what you want, but at least you will walk away with your integrity intact.

4. Being snarky.

To make statements, whether you are joking or not, that would discriminate or belittle others for their physical characteristics, beliefs, or lifestyles because they do not meet your standards is totally unnecessary.

It is ok to have your preferences, but displaying snarkiness will likely make you come off as rude or presumptuous.

The best thing you can do is refrain from expressing any biased opinions you may have about others. Instead, you could mention the qualities you admire in people and expand on what you would like to have in common with a potential match.

5. Raising expectations.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to make a good impression. However, when you want to impress others, you are likely to magnify your qualities and overstate your skills.

By doing so, you are raising expectations in others that you will most probably be unable to fulfill.

That is because others will often have a different perception of the traits you believe you possess and excel at. For instance, you could describe yourself as bold, but you would not be considered bold in the eyes of someone more audacious than you.

To avoid raising expectations, you could instead emphasize talking about personal experiences that best reflect who you are.

One last tip, avoid being too vague. Try being more specific about your interests and values, even if that means getting fewer matches. It is much better to have fewer high-quality matches than hundreds of pointless matches. I hope this helps!